Friday, January 24, 2014

{Wedding 101} How to Deal with a Bridesmaid Who Isn’t Being Your Number One Supporter

{Written by Jessica Davis; Photo Credit: RHPhotoArts}

Here's another great article from our very own Jessica!  Enjoy!

We all have seen it: there is one bridesmaid in particular who is not on board. She is always late to meetings, she complains about the bridesmaid dresses, and is not a supporter of your wedding in general. Case in point, watching one episode of “Say Yes to the Dress: Bridesmaid edition, and you, the bride-to-be will be frightened of what is to come. Hopefully with these tips, my lovely brides, you can get your bridesmaid back on the right path.

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{Photo Credit:  RHPhotoarts}


1.  Set Expectations from the Beginning
When you set expectations right from the beginning, it will be less likely that problems will arise. Bridesmaids will have a clear set of guidelines of what you will expect from each one of them throughout the wedding process.
2.  Talk to Her
If a bridesmaid is becoming overbearing or is not being a supporter, talk to her, pull her aside and ask what is going on. It could be she is worried that things could change between the two of you or she has an issue with the wedding party. No matter what it is, make time to communicate with one another.
3.  Do Not Settle
Remember, this is still YOUR day. Compromises will be made, but do not settle for less than what you originally wanted. You cannot make everyone happy and if you strive to do so, the wedding will end in disaster. If your bridesmaid is being nit-picky over trivial issues, ignore or talk to her depending on the situation. She can choose what she wants on HER wedding day, but for now, this is YOUR moment!

4.  Remove Her from the Bridal Party
I hate to recommend this, but sometimes difficult decisions have to be made. Instead of jeopardizing your friendship, it may be best for everyone to remove her from your bridal party. Things don't need to end badly, and it's easier for her to step down if you give her a way out. Be the better person and explain to her why you came to this conclusion. Instead of her ruining not only your other bridesmaids’ experiences, she is also affecting your day as well. In the end, everyone will happier.

Do you have any additional advice?  We'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences!  Happy Planning!

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